How to overcome negative family problems

before we begin let's address the elephant in the room and that is when your own family are not supportive of your dreams | goals and they do not want you to succeed it SUCKS.

At the end of this post I will also explain why you should not worry yourself with this concern but you have to read on..

I will go through a short list then we will break each one down.

1. This could be parents not being supportive of your future plans.

2. This could be extended family not being supportive.

3. This could be friends of the family not being supportive.

4. This could be brothers | sisters not being supportive.

5. This could even be your children who are not supportive.

Now we all know we cannot choose our family but isn't family's suppose to boost each others confidence, willpower and cheer them on as they get to the next level?

Take for instance when you achieve something great like you pass a test or you conquer a fear or even you do this amazing stunt that you have been practicing for weeks, so you post this on Facebook and take for instance your cousin doesn't like your post or congratulate you but they like and comment on somebody else's post that are not even their family.

You are then fuming that something that took you ages to do and you family could not just be like wow fair play dude, well done but instead they choose to like and comment on someone's cat picture that was taken from GOOGLE 😕

I have came to the realisation that sometimes we do not know why our family members act negative when it comes to our success however we can indeed put ourselves in their shoes.

So we will start with the parents.

Do you have parents that tell you they do not like your idea of becoming a YouTuber, an influencer, a musician, an athlete? there are many more but just to keep it short and sweet we will just stick to these.

As your point of view you are probity thinking.. Wow my parents say they love me and they wish to treat me like an adult yet they are not supportive of my future plans but why? do they want to see me fail? do they want me to be miserable? do they just want to ruin my fun?

Now lets jump into your parents shoes - So as a parent I would try to be as supportive as I could be but I would also help the child to see the realistic side of things too. Doing these sort of jobs are so cool! but they are not 100% guaranteed so having a backup plan is a must! most people or companies who are looking for big talent will not take you seriously if you are not constantly improving your craft and taking classes and guess what ChilldedCats these classes do indeed cost money.

Some parents wont admit they like the idea of you following your dreams mainly because they don't want to fill your head with false pretences thus in return you will stay grounded and realistic and this is good because as a parent the thing you hate the most is when your children are not happy.

⚠️ Blunt Trauma Incoming ⚠️

However some parents will want you to follow the path they have set for you already like taking on the family business, becoming a doctor, nurse, policeman or anything else they see as high value thus you have no say in the matter.

If you think you can be a high profession like this for your parents and work on your dream too then I praise your willpower as yes it will be achievable no matter what your ambition is remember these paths will require you to invest huge amount of time studying, going to college, university and if your parents are poor or middle class then you will be required to pay for university yourself and that means finding a job to have on the side so you have even less time.

I've seen this happen many times the people have spend years on being the profession their parents wanted them to do so they have given up on their dreams because they have already committed so much time to this path.

Now we move on to extended family and this could mean cousins, uncles, aunties grans or grampas.

Now these are the people that usually live far away from you, or the people you only see at a funeral.

They may of heard stories about you or have seen you on your lowest point so they judge you based on that.

I have an ancle and I feel as if he already hated me from the start because of my birth father as he caused the family a lot of problems.

However I chose to not let this justify me so yeah there was indeed a funeral I had started speaking to him, we smiled, we laughed then a year later I'm sending him messages, whenever he is online however I get no reply back.

I was working on self development at this point so I was posting on my Facebook and the amount of time he was online never once congratulate me or like any of my posts.

He then Is posting videos of his lavish life in New Zealand and what do I do? I start showing my support and liking his videos and I even commented on his live video and still no response no thank you or anything.

So what did I do? I deleted him off Facebook and why? well Facebook is a means to connect and speak however none of that was happening so bye bye uncle.

Now am I reading too much into this or?

Before I go on to the next bit I will tell you something my nan had said to me when I went to Kent with my mum, as my mum was In the kitchen my nan had told me when I was born she despised me and wish I never was born because of my dad and at this point I'm 16.

So me rest of the day didn't speak to anyone still processing things.

I'm going on a tangent so lets do to the other part so uncles and aunties are people we should really look up to right? aside from my story they may not be supportive or seem supportive and why? this could be because they are on the same level as your parents that wish you to take on the family business or the profession that is set out for you.

They could even not want you to make the same mistakes they did.

Even though aunties and uncles are usually the most fun however they will always have your parents back.

Now to the cousins side, most of us really trust our cousins because they are like our brothers or sisters from another mother, we can tell them secrets, they will let us know what's going on and even they can help you out in problems being money, bulling but this can indeed become a problem mainly if they are the same age range because they might be inclined to hide you away because they think their girlfriends will like you more, they may not be liking your videos, posts or supporting you because they think that in them not showing support your progress will die down.

They may even be inclined to talk down to you Infront of their girlfriends lie, or even take the mick.

But with this they are just doing the macho thing, let them carry on, you know what your mission is and they have no idea that how they are acting screams insecure.

They may also agree with their parents that you should just stay in your lane, try not to cause trouble and do what is required.

Now brothers and sisters.

If your brother or sister is not supportive this could mean a few things such as they really care for you so they don't want you to get your heart broken or be unhappy.

They don't want to see you end up in debt or make rash decisions.

Even though our parents really know us to a T our brothers and sisters have a different connection with us and some might even say you feel more closer to your brother then your dad this is quite common.

Our brother | sister know what makes us happy and if they feel as if going down a route will end up making you unhappy they will try to steer you away from that road.

Yes they could also be jealous or your progress.

They may have tried something and failed but you did the same thing and succeeded.

They may even feel as if their friends or girlfriends will find you more cooler so thus they could take the mick and try to get your vibration lowered.

Now we move on to the children.

Yes this is a situation you may find yourself in.

Why would my children not want me to succeed?

Well putting yourself in your children's shoes maybe they are worried that If you succeed and go for your dream job you will abandon them and a child's worst fear is being abandoned.

They may think that if you get the high status they will be required to match that status.

They might think that if you become famous that you will be embarrassed of them.

As they get older things may become even harder take for instance, 17, 18, 19 when they start getting girlfriends or boyfriends they may feel the need to talk dirty about you and tell their friends or girlfriends | boyfriends that they hate you and even say some things that are not true about you.

Why? yet to be answered but I would think perhaps they don't want their friends, girlfriends | boyfriends to find you cooler.

They may be inclined to lie about you saying that you hit them or abuse them, not giving them food so they look hard, so people will take pity on them thus making it harder for the girlfriends | boyfriends to say no to them and if they become jealous of you being your willpower, your body, your bank, whatever it is they will lie and say things that make you sound like the scum of the earth because jealousy is known to have even the smartest of people do and say the stupidest things.

As a parent it is interesting for us to find out what kind of girl | woman, boy | man our children are bringing home.

We get to find out if they are nice or if they will look after our children.

Will they just cause fights?

Will the appreciate or abuse their generosity?

How our children act around these partners or how they act when they are not with them.

Now again this sucks! but why you shouldn't worry yourself with this concern is because we all have our own missions and right now being the best version or yourself is all that matters.

There was a video I watched the other day and one of the things stated was everyone likes to think of themselves as the main character in their own story.

As the main character or hero we do not have time to worry about what ifs and if people like us or if our family supports us.

We have to complete the mission and hope that thought the journey we inspire others and change others negative view to positive ones.

In the end our family will see what we are doing is making us happy and they will most likely start being supportive.

People fear the unknown.

I hope this post has helped someone out there with this information.

Remember you are never too old, too young, too stupid or too smart to learn and develop and become the best version of yourself.